I love seduction. I can tell you that nothing feels hotter than slow steady escalation from a knowing man. Even if that man is over 7000 miles away, I can feel it and I love it.
How to warm up a new potential play mate
You would never start up a hot Ferrari 488GTB in fourth gear would you? Of course not. Women are exactly the same. You have to start out with a cold engine and warm her up correctly. You can’t accelerate if the engine is not started.
Here is a part of an email I recently received from a young cub who wants to know how to ignite passion in a new potential play mate.
The women I meet in the chat rooms always ask how old I am and then when I tell them, they tell me I am too young. How can I get them to give me a chance?
Frustrated in Dublin
Women crave a man who knows how to warm her up
I know what you mean. Some women over 50 find the idea of sex, even cyber sex or intimate chats with a much younger man uncomfortable. They will shut you down fast.
Ladies need to feel safe and comfortable to be flirty with you in chat. Even on a sex chat site, women will need to be warmed up before they will want to text with you. In fact, women crave a man who knows how to warm her up properly.
Pay attention to what she is telling you
Are you one of those rare guys who really does get off when his woman is lost in orgasm? It doesn’t matter how old you are. I would ignore the question about your age and ask her something about herself.
A good place to start is:
Have you been on this site for long?
It’s a little awkward at first, don’t you think?
How did you find the site?
What are you looking for here?
Once you have a conversation going, pay attention to what she is telling you. Women love chat. She will reveal details about herself as she gets comfortable.
Ask questions about what she tells you. If she says something about work, ask about that. If she says anything about her ex, ask questions about that. Follow her lead. Get to know her.
Whatever you do, don’t say anything sexual at all.
I can’t tell you how important this is. I guarantee you that the woman you are chatting with has been FLOODED with lewd and crude advances. When you are into HER and not her body, you will stand out from the crowd in a big way!!!
Once she starts to trust that you are not a vagina vagabond out for a quick one time screw, she will open to you.
If she is interested in a one night stand, she will get sexual with you in the text. Your desire to please her, boiling behind the scenes will have its chance. But you MUST wait for her to be sexy flirty first. Then you can play.
Slowly, ever so slowly, escalate
The main thing is, just like in real life dating, you have to find the switch to sexual tension and slowly, ever so slowly, escalate. Your pace determines everything. If you go too fast, you will put out the flame you’ve been building.
Like I said, there is nothing hotter than being led by a man who knows how to control the sexual tension. I love it and so do the women I know. It is intoxicating.
If you are not sure how to tell if there is sexual tension in a cyber chat, write to me and I will post more about it. It is the secret sauce! Once you know how to create and turn up the heat, women won’t care how old you are!
Learning to text to create sexual tension is easy when you are taught the right way. I recommend David Wygant. He is a master. Check it out: TeaseACougar.com