So….is it possible?
Can you have a purely sexual relationship and not long for more? In the search for ultimate pleasure, do conventional relationship rules apply? Here’s what is going on with me.
I am having the best sex of my life. A 36 year old cyber buddy asked me if it is true that women in their 60s have a higher sex drive than women decades younger. As I told him, I can only speak for myself but yes, I am having the best sex of my life. So all in all, I would have to give my sexual satisfaction an A+.
Since adding cyber sex to the mix, I have orgasms that last for forty five minutes. I never expected this. My ex had no sexual appetite and I had adjusted myself accordingly. I am a one man woman…a serial monogamist and cheating never crossed my mind. I had solo sex all the way along with erotica and a great vibrator.
Little did I know how much my life would change once reawakened and sexually active again.
After I left my husband, very young men began to appear on the scene. Once I got a taste of what it is like to have a man turned on by the thought of me, my self confidence went through the roof.
Now I get why Madonna, Cher, Jennifer Lopez and now Heidi Klum love younger guys so much. It is like a fountain of youth. I feel younger than ever and life is changing.
I began writing again after a long hiatus. I found myself a great new job. I am leaving my current job with my head held high and a great relationship with my boss.
I think that the fountain of inner energy that is available because of my sex life is more tangible to me because I went without it for such a long time.
So that is why I give my sex life an amazing A+. Do you hear a but coming? Well, there is one. I have a sex buddy who knows how to touch me and coax deep soul satisfying orgasm out of me. Yummy.
The problem is, he travels. I only see him about every other month.
If I moon over him and obsess about the when, where and how of our next encounter, it sucks. All I can think of is how much I want to be with him again. To feel his mouth on me. Nipping, licking and kissing me… making me quake inside. Of course I long to feel him touching and stroking me. Duh.
That’s where cyber sex comes in. I have two or three men that spend time with me and are eager to please. The attraction is mutual and I enjoy learning what it takes to bring them the satisfaction they are bringing me.
What is happening for me is deep and crazy good orgasm without emotional attachment. My body is now responsive to the quietest of touch and can be sent into waves of pleasure that last 30 to 45 minutes. I am not kidding.
Here is what I think is going on.
It is hard for me to let my guard down when I am with a man.
But when I am alone, my body can fully relax and when that happens, orgasm happens all by itself. Cyber buddies who text along…narrating the blow by blow, so to speak bring peak experiences again and again.
I am going to start seeing other men in the real world too. Yes, I am a serial monogamist or so I thought. Now, I am going to say yes when asked out and see what unfolds.
The beauty of solo sex with a cyber buddy is that it builds a sustained sexual energy which makes me more self confident and sure of myself when I am with real time men.
Because I am not sexually starving, I am much better at keeping my head screwed on straight when chemistry strikes.
Ultimately, all sex is solo sex. Full and ecstatic orgasms are essentially self centered. All awareness falls away as the body vibrates to a deep inner rhythm that pulsates pleasure upon pleasure.
Even with the love of your life, if you get to that peak place of pleasure, it doesn’t matter if he is there or not. Having a fantasy partner will never be as hot as skin on skin, mouth on delicious mouth sex play.
But, a talented text partner, the right vibrator and a safe place to play make for a great evenings entertainment. Solo sex is the safest sex out there and technology brings unlimited possibilities right to your phone or laptop. What are you waiting for?